Josh Thorne: peer support
Josh peer supports and helps Jon to coach communities to practice 21st century life skills.
Josh's peer support helps the person he is peer supporting enjoy themselves as they cooperate in a journey into the unknown without fixed ways of doing things... often by playing computer games together. The possibility of an exciting future comes into view... for the person being peer supported. They tend to move on and join communities practicing 21st century life skills.
Josh uses his 21st century life coaching to help the person he is peer supporting to make their own individual conscious choices ... to sometimes follow, sometimes lead, sometimes go your own way. To sometimes choose to accept risk and sometimes reject risk. To sometimes choose to push through barriers, sometimes go round barriers, sometimes use barriers as a nudge to go in a different direction. Exciting futures come into view.
To make sure Josh doesn't force the person he is peer supporting to always follow him and do as he says, Josh asks all the people he is peer supporting to hold him to account for practicing these 6 habits.
Habits 1 to 3 are about listening. Practicing them make it harder for qualified life coaches to accidently make participants always follow them.
Habit 1: Tell others what to do only if they have asked us to do so. (We try to avoid assuming others will always want to know what we think)
Habit 2: Recognise when others say stop, and stop. (We try to avoid finding ways to increase the pressure to make others do as we say).
Habit 3: When things are not going our way, we try to ask ourselves, what have we missed? (We try to avoid thinking we need to keep going ignoring what others say.)
Habits 3 to 6 help qualified life coaches to be kind.
Habit 4: We try to make choices to minimise the spread of badwill to ourselves and others. (We try to avoid giving more badwill back)
Habit 5: When things go wrong, we try to make choices to nudge ourselves to a better place where we feel less of a victim. (We try to avoid blaming others)
Habit 6: We try to make choices to give goodwill to ourselves and others. (We try to avoid always thinking, the greater good is always more important than our own self)
If you feel Josh needs some extra help in practicing these 6 habits please contact the professional association for everyone practicing and coaching the life skills of the 21st century at http://lifeskills.tictail.com/. Josh is a founding member.
Josh is 18 years old and is supported by his dad... Jon Thorne. Josh feels the best way to share his story to parents, teachers, and other professionals that work with young adults... is through his dad's eyes...
When it became clear that following the academic path was harming Jon's kids... At the time, 8 years ago, Jon and his wife faced with a stark choice... to find a way to help their boys keep up with their peers or accept their children will have a tough isolated and lonely time finding their own way.
Jon and Debbie refused to accept this choice.
They created a second option. They developed an ability to help their own and other kids practice what we now call... 21st century life skills. 21st century life skills are about cooperating as we share journeys into the unknown... without fixed ways of doing things. 20th century life skills are about following a path laid down by others.
Josh Thorne, now 18 years old, and having practiced 21st century life skills for the last 8 years, has discovered a gift for peer supporting other young adults who are struggling to follow paths laid down by others.
Josh now wants to build his own business around peer supporting ASD young adults.
Josh gives the person he is peer supporting an experience of cooperating with him without fixed ways of doing things... which typically involves playing computer games. An experience of 21st century life skills. In this way the young adult starts to see that there is a joyful alternative to 20th century life skills which are designed to help us follow paths laid down by others. The possibility of a bright future comes into view.
Jon is available for peer support of parents.
Josh's dad supports Josh.
This is our emerging engagement process...
1. Jon and Josh meet the parents/parent and the young person seeking peer support. Jon walks through what 21st century life skills are and how practicing can bring exciting futures into view. Josh spends time with the person he will peer support.
2. Josh is appointed to peer support. And Jon can also peer support parents.
3. The person being peer supported will hopefully start to see there is an alternative way to live an exciting connected life... without following a path laid down by others. Their self esteem should grow as their belief in their future grows. With luck the person being peer supported will start to try new things and move onto some of our adventures eg tall ships sailing, caving, basketball etc
4. We all agree when to review the process.
Start the process by contacting... Jon.Thorne@MyInnovationSpace.com